So I was on the bus again, seated right at the back, going home from work. All the seats were taken and there were quite a few people standing. I was on my phone fiddling, and subconsciously noticed the white guy seated opposite me. A few minutes later, I raised my head and he was gone. It was while I was looking around that I spotted the pair standing right at the very front of the bus. A white guy chatting up a black lady. Wait a minute! That's the white guy that was sitting here a few minutes back, I thought to myself. Omo, I forgot what I was doing on my phone and concentrated on them jare. From the way the girl was acting, there was no mistaking the toasting that was going on. He was standing behind her and was engaging her in conversation. She was replying him, but only with short anwers apparently, as she kept her head turned so she was watching the road, and only turned to answer the man's questions. And bros was un-relenting with the questions too. It was the way she kept flicking her hair back and front to answer him that I found quite intriguing. He said something to her, she flicked her hair back to face him, answered him, flicked it front again to watch the road. She was loving it! And this went on for quite a while. E never tey when my man pulled out his phone, and she flicked her hair a couple of times again to recite her number!!!!! What????!!!!!! I was petrified!!!!! Right in front of the bus!!! And you know everyone else behind was facing front, so they saw all that encounter willingly or un-willingly! They both happened to get off at the same place where the man continued his toasting.
I've always argued with ladies who couldn't stop with that "I like Confidence in a guy" yarns. I mean, A guy could have sniffed a whole tank of Coke, smoked all the weed in the world, drank all the alcohol, put his hands in my pockets, slide over to you like "Hey baby, wassup?" and pass the confidence test right? But everything became clear when after watching this couple. That babe had probably not had even an old wrinkled man pay her any attention since 2011 began. (I'm just saying o. lol) Even still, She could have brushed him off rudely (like most women tend to do. Yes I said it. Na lie before?) But No, homie, spotted her all the way from the back of the bus where he was sitting, got up and went to the very front of the bus, to chat her up! In full view of everyone else!!! I could see why she gave him her number! That's some real confidence right there!!! And it didn't matter that homie was white or whatever, she definitely was impressed with him!!! I mean there were other black brothers together with me on the bus. We get mind why we no waka meet am? Abi she suppose beg us ni? lol
This is the same thing I'm starting to apply in my job hunt. This recession is the reason recruiters are not hiring anymore. It doesn't matter the first class you graduated with. Everyone's in the same soup pot these days. But something that sets a person away from the pack is confidence. A can-do attitude. My dad used to say something back then "If you can't dazzle them with your brilliance, baffle them with your bullshit". I.e, you don't know jack about the job, but your manner of speaking, the confidence in your tone, your expressions just blocks out all your other inadequacies. I've got a Jamaican guy working with me. This guy can chat up a tree I swear. I mean, he can actually start a convo with a tree and get it to talk back to him. this guy calls the customer service personnel at his mobile phone provider and if you've called those people before, you know they can be very curt. They're well mannered, but they are trained to help you resolve your issue in a quick manner and get on to other callers. My jamo guy calls a customer service operator to complain about something on his phone and by the end of the call, the operator has told him what they do, their music tastes, the best restaurants, e.t.c you just name it. When faced with a problem, their replies are usually "Never say never, Sure, Piece of cake, easy, e.t.c"
And this is the same thing recruiters listen for when they first call you to talk about how they found your CV on some site and how they think you might be a good match for the job. Most of the time they're calls usually wake me up in the mornings, and you know how I'm going to sound at that time right? Everyone loves a happy person. Someone who's excited at the littlest things.
We should all strive to be more confident.
